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hey everyone Mercedes Terell here and today we’re diving deep into a very sensitive yet crucial topic understanding the origins of people pleasing Behavior this discussion is all about exploring how societal norms and cultural expectations have shaped our Tendencies to prioritize others approval over our own needs and desires throughout history so from chivalrous nights of medieval Tales to Modern depictions of the perfect gentleman so societal ideas about how we should behave to be liked loved and accepted

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have deeply influenced our self-perception and actions whether it’s the filial son in Asian cultures or the stoic provider in others these cultural scripts on suppressing one’s desires for societal approval are prevalent worldwide and although these ideals may seem Noble they often come with a hidden cost feeling trapped constantly seeking external validation and fearing rejection for simply being ourselves understanding these patterns offers us Clarity empowering us to make informed choices moving forward and

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reshape our Behavior so let’s explore how these cultural scripts have influenced us personally as I discuss various sources from media betrayals to social norms and parental expectations think about how these might have played a role in shaping your people pleasing Tendencies so media often portrays the people pleaser as the hero who wins through kindness this archetype celebrated in countless films TV shows and novels typically emerges triumphant not through assertiveness or confrontation but through Relentless

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kindness and self-sacrifice these portrayals can Sly suggest that constant agreeableness is the key to success in relationships and life cultures across the globe also play a significant role in reinforcing the people pleaser Persona in many societies traits like politeness deference and conflict avoidance are not just valued they are expected especially in men and this cultural script dictates that maintaining Harmony and appeasing others are more important than voicing true feelings or disagreements peer pressure

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is another potent force that shapes Behavior so growing up if your friends or Social Circle valued the people pleaser apprach where being overly accommodating is seen as a virtue you might have felt compelled to emulate this Behavior to fit in or be accepted this can lead to a pattern of suppressing your true self in exchange for approval familial upbringing it cannot be overlooked either if you were raised in a family where being a people pleaser was not only encouraged but expected you might struggle with assertiveness as an adult parents who

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teach their children that they their worth is tied to how much they please others can unintentionally set them up for a lifetime of seeking external validation and let’s not forget the impact of online communities forums social media platforms and discussion groups can amplify and reinforce people pleaser narratives these spaces can become Echo Chambers where this type of behavior is normalized and even exalted making it harder for individuals to recognize the cost of these patterns on their personal authenticity with all of

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these influences converging it’s crucial to ask yourself how have these cultural scripts shaped your interactions and self-perception have you ever felt pressured to conform to these ideas at the cost of your own authenticity you’re like most humans including me then that’s a hard yes it’s essential to recognize these pressures to begin reclaiming our true self let’s take a moment for some personal reflection here identify any people pleaser patterns or expectations that have come through your

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upbringing whether from family or cultural influences I want you to really sit with this take your time pause the video if you need this type of self-awareness is the first step toward Breaking Free from these limiting molds and embracing a more balanced and authentic way of being so take this seriously the thing is that understanding your past is crucial in reshaping your future especially when it comes to Breaking Free free from being a people pleaser this isn’t just about overcoming a stereotype it’s about

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embracing a journey towards profound self- understanding and true confidence so take your time with that today and I want to thank you for taking the time to join me in this video exploring these deep-seated cultural influences remember you’re not just learning about social norms and societal Norms you’re learning how to become truly confident and at peace with who you are all right I will see you in the next video and remember you already are