(00:00) um [Laughter] let’s go shopping i haven’t shaved my armpits in a week oh hell i did the chris is gone i did the laser hair removal and it actually bruised me this time wow they like did it in so high and it’s been burning all day camera on audacity hey ps we need to do a clap and we didn’t do it on the last one that was not a good thing uh wild food sponsored me as an individual so i think that means they’ll probably end up staying on the show too oh that’s good ready one two three are they gonna ever send me anything or

(00:39) they said they sent you the box just yesterday they were like yeah she could do like a video of her unveiling the box that would be great i i think that what’s his name maybe because of his concussion i don’t think he sent them your information in time um i don’t know um because they seemed like it they didn’t even seem like oh sorry we just got it out they were like yeah we just sent it like yeah you just get you know like it was completely normal so so i don’t think they had your info on

(01:05) time but honey i feel so unorganized i don’t even know what time it is yeah i know all right so um let me go ahead and say john i’m gonna go ahead and say the [ __ ] should have done this on the last thing oh all right i’m gonna say this was part one of our episode with mercedes tyrell stay tuned next week for part two and then i’ll also say this was part one of our interview with mercedes this doesn’t stare at me like that this is part one be quiet this is part one of my interview with mercedes tyrell stay tuned next week for

(01:51) part two and then for this episode john this is part two that we’re recording now i’ll say this is part two of our episode with mercedes tyrell enjoy [Laughter] wait okay uh i’ll say this is part two of my episode with mercedes tyrell all right all right let’s get let’s continue with our questions from the magic mob you’re already laughing you do a clean one with this is wait this is part two of our or this is part two of the mercedes terrell episode that’s what it is okay this was part one of the mercedes tyrell

(02:33) episode ah this is this was part one of the mercedes terrell interview stay tuned next week for part two and then this is part two of the mercedes tyrell episode this is part two of the mercedes thrill interview john god help us okay all right let’s keep going with these questions from the magic mob so we ended off last um about the do’s and don’ts with going down on your woman um i wanted to add on a quick thing what why are you looking at me like that i’m just waiting so i wanted to add on a quick thing that

(03:26) i thought about um so i when i was having trouble orgasming with someone during oral because it’s really the only way i can orgasm usually um [Music] i i remember so someone had said well only moan if i’m hitting the spot that way i know like to stay there um and although that did kind of get me in my head a little bit about whether or not i was moaning um just having maybe like a little code word or just like even being able to just ask her to like give direction was is really really helpful because then it also shows that

(03:59) you care enough so it’s a little add-on to last week’s ending okay wait so do moan only whenever you’re feeling something you really like is your tip yeah yeah we don’t want to be faking it for sure but i also just no but it lets them know to stay there where they’re at okay so you can make cues for that like i don’t know tap me on the bench maybe guys you could say tell me on the back of your baby or whatever it is when you call me daddy yeah if you’re doing that we need to talk probably deeper about other things

(04:34) but yeah i have the same problem just stay in that um so stay in that zone our first question from our magic mob so you’re saying my parents still can’t listen go on is and this is from anonymous um it says why are some women so mean about penis size and is it really a big enough reason to end a relationship over man this is a tricky question because i’m sure every guy is contemplating you know whether they’re big enough like every guy thinks about that we know that um every girl thinks about whether their

(05:16) body parts are in order to the way that men want them or the man they’re dating wants them so we get it whether you’re female or male we all have these insecurities um i’ve been sorting through my own sex addiction i’m going to call it quote-unquote sex addiction lately just because i feel like that word is a little dramatic and because this question about penis size has come up in conversation with friends lately um i just feel like it’s it’s like it’s ready to be answered by us here on the show so i’m glad

(05:52) you’re you’re asking i’m glad that anonymous um magic mobber is asking it yeah it’s definitely not a big enough reason to end a relationship over in my opinion but no i think one of the stories though that i was getting to one of the stories i was telling myself was that penis size is somehow an instrumental uh thing in the way that i might feel validated through sex and um because of how deep they’re penetrating you i think for so many reasons that we might think that and it can spawn from something that’s

(06:27) way further back in life like it can come from just wanting to feel dominated because you didn’t feel protected i mean it literally i think can come from so many deeper things and that’s kind of something personal you have to dig up for yourself and that’s why i was asking it to myself okay you know what are the reasons that i might be using sex as a way of validation and that was one of the things that came up for me does penis size play a part of that because we’ve asked we’ve talked about this

(06:54) question before um i’ve talked about this question with other friends before this is a question that comes up or a thing that comes up um penis size a thing that comes up you know in life in irregularly and lately for whatever reason um in my life it’s come up a couple times so it was on my mind but i also was thinking okay why why my i feel validated through sex because of uh maybe a larger penis for instance and i was thinking that one of the reasons might be because our culture tells us to view a penis as an

(07:27) extension of a man’s ability to provide and i think that is like a really important thing to to understand and figure out and we think masculine i think like big too you know yeah and when we think phallic we think specifically about um all the statues out there amongst around the world where uh penis uh you know phallus was a symbol of something to praise and then it became bigger and bigger because you know we want to for whatever reason humans we feel like bigger is more plentiful more bountiful and so i think that’s where it comes

(08:07) into play here and it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s true like many of the things that we believe as humans many of the things that we believe is a culture are not true and then the other thing that came up for me was that this whole dick pic epidemic where women are constantly bombarded with photos of usually overtly large penises that don’t even necessarily belong to the person sending them firstly yeah and they’re also being shot at an angle that makes them look probably bigger than they are

(08:35) i don’t like the way that porn and these airbrush photos and all the face tune and filters on instagram is causing that skewed image of what women are supposed to look like it’s the same thing with these dick pics precisely so not that we even are looking at those or want to well and i don’t mind a dick pic if it’s solicited like if i ask if it’s invited right then i’m down for it unsolicited dick pic probably not a good idea can get you in lots of trouble too never um but the thing there is

(09:06) you know hashtag keep it realist guys like jade saying this idea of the fact that women are often and young girls even for the first time what they’re seeing a penis look like is a massive you know member that isn’t necessarily anything close to what the majority of men have going on and so of course they’re going to have crazy expectations when that’s what’s getting shown to them over and over again and on pornography you know we’re looking at penises that look not necessarily like the rest of the

(09:39) world so i think it’s just a lot of ways that we’re training women’s minds to have a perspective on penises that is really not healthy and not true but women being mean about it that is not about penis size that is something else in them that they’re telling you about themselves like so they’re just they’re finding a reason they’re finding something else like that’s yeah i think you agree um in order to gain perspective on something like that like that’s like a man complaining that your boobs are not

(10:11) big or that they’re they’re not perky like it’s not really about your boobs he there’s he’s not happy with himself and so he’s complaining you know what i mean right so i was gonna say is that if you turn the question around guys on yourself and you said why is breast size or butt size so important that a guy might be mean about it if a girl doesn’t feel that you know satisfy whatever that is for for the particular individual or they leave a relationship because she doesn’t have

(10:41) the boobs or the butt or whatever the thing is that asks the same question i mean we’re talking about pieces of flesh men are very mean about that totally not all men but some yeah especially younger uh kids in school you know like it can get really really um terrible so i just think it’s not a good reason for someone to body shame another person in any regard when it comes to a piece of flesh but to give some um comfort to people who don’t feel as big um i would prefer on the smaller side than to the bigger because i i do

(11:19) remember um [Music] like a couple different scenarios like i remember one time someone being so big that when you took his pants off i was like nope not having sex with this guy and i didn’t i didn’t because it like that did not look like it was gonna feel good and so i would totally prefer on the smaller side if i were to have to decide between one or the other and um i did notice too that when it’s not super big the tip of the penis rubs against the g-spot when it’s going in and out in a way that a bigger one doesn’t and

(11:56) so for someone who has a hard time climaxing during sex that’s great yeah i mean the g area is really only like one to two inches into the vaginal canal if you want to get real medical on it but in the head of the penis like rubbing against that feels awesome so that’s something that like someone who doesn’t feel as good about their size that’s something that they can kind of take comfort in because that feels awesome for a woman yeah and i think if you know someone is uh feeling again like someone’s being mean about the situation

(12:31) it’s just again to remember that hurt people hurt people i know we say yeah i’m on the podcast but when someone else is blaming you for something that you cannot change or is being mean about something a part of your body shaming you for that that is something they’re dealing with on their own or need to deal with on their own it is not actually about you and i’m sorry that you’re going through that yeah i think there are plenty of women out there seeking genuine connection and not over a piece of flesh like that um

(13:02) regardless of penis size so don’t let the whole size thing become an insecurity that gets in the way of meeting those women that’s what i really want to like get across is that if you let this insecurity be in the way of you meeting the people who are totally down with what you rock in that is a bummer and i don’t yeah so just know they’re all out there yeah both types are out there fellas just like on the other end of things guys different things too so yeah so next question at dynamite dynamiteforlife816

(13:35) he’s been a um a follower of us for a while now asks what is your proudest proudest accomplishment this show uh yeah yeah for sure this show is such a light in my life but also because i feel like it’s people come up to me all the time and they go i’m listening to your show it happens to me too my life and i’m like oh my god it happens to me like on it happens to me at yoga um that happens to me too and i’m like it feels like there’s a lot of you yeah i mean it’s just and even if it was

(14:15) on if no one was doing that but i knew this it was yeah airwaves and people were hearing it i know just the energy you were putting into this that it’s got to be fruitful to some degree yeah this show um has been one of my proudest accomplishments falling in love in the dark like i was talking about earlier has been one of my biggest accomplishments um learning how to manage my mind and care for my body and nurture my spirit that has been one of my hardest journeys and definitely one of my biggest accomplishments which i am it’s never

(14:44) ending it’s not going to be you know i’m not done but um so yeah i think with that it’s just dedicating myself to to growth and learning how to love better and how to be a better human um how to be a light like we always say which i think largely came through my mental and physical breakdowns which i now call awakening so yeah yeah and all so so i’m all proud of all of it over there at manny smoothasaurus which has also been a follower of ours for a while if she could trade one thing in the life

(15:21) of hers with one thing in the life of yours what would it be hi manny um thanks for this question it is probably the hardest question ever i know right yeah because i think we’re both right now especially creating lives that we really want so that is true i don’t feel like i’m like oh i wish i had that thing maybe i wish i had like a jumbo jet or something like that can i get like bill gates to trade with or something yeah here no take it he said me mercedes um but that’s like a thing i think which

(15:56) jade let’s just trade jaya for mishka is that cool my cat for your daughter she’s pretty cute i think no sorry can’t have a camera but if that’s your answer sure i think um maybe like your uh your lack of attachment to things that’d be good you could have my whole closet i didn’t know i had that or i feel like you have it a lot i feel like you’re much less attached to things than i am or maybe it’s just one of my big obstacles so i feel like everybody is i don’t know here i am i thought i was a

(16:30) hoarder um i don’t know what would your uh your answer to that b probably and this is an assumption that you even have it probably eight hours of into uninterrupted sleep mm-hmm with what though you had to trade something what you willing to get you could have your attachment to things is suddenly stronger than i assisted you could have god got to be fair trade i know that’s all right i told you nanny were you sending us this [ __ ] yeah what are we podcast hosts god damn it i don’t know you can’t have my children

(17:18) you’ve decided that eh hmm um i’ll take your firstborn [Laughter] um i guess this question wasn’t for me anyway so i don’t have to i told answer it’s hard there’s no real oh i was gonna say maybe like uh your ability to multitask with my ability to give concise direction since we struggled that’s kind of good right that is good although i okay we’ll go with that i need to stop multitasking so much yeah the stress addiction huh yeah at this point at cassieren99 who we um she actually drove

(18:00) hours she drove from dallas to austin to come to our last event yeah um so this is this was really cool uh of her she sent in a question what practices do you use to get clear and manifest future goals um okay what practices i use so it’s taking me a long time to get an idea of what works for me regarding clearing my mind uh and like laying out precise goals and so i have a i think like a five let’s call it a five step program for this um i’ve talked about this on my on my instagram before too so first off i’m gonna call it no guts

(18:46) no glory so what works best for me is i know this seems maybe not related but it’s completely related to this uh ability to lay out my goals and clear my mind and you know manifest like she’s asking about so no guts don’t worry it’s about eating a diet free of gluten and dairy low and processed sugar i mean processed foods and sugar and that ensures that my my gut health is in order since that’s been a long and trying journey for me um and finally learning to manage all that and then number two would be motion before

(19:21) emotion we say it all the time on the show guys i know if you’re listening you already know this um exercising daily ideally daily at least enough to break a sweat and if not daily then you know five days out of the week it’s critically important to really any movements better than no movement for sure like anything dance in your house i i don’t know vacuum do whatever you’re gonna do just stand up um but yeah breaking a sweat that’s important for me and it’s what i’m doing there is releasing my endorphins getting

(19:52) my adrenals and endocrine system pumping and flushing out the toxins that cause me to be prone to anxiety and panic and depression and for me that is critically important it is um one of the things that my therapist said right away i have to make sure i’m doing so stick to that and then number three is um time is a limited commodity so deciding when to say no and saying no to things that aren’t directing me towards who i want to be and this is super tough if you’re a recovering alcoholic recovering alcoholic like me

(20:24) um but i you know just remember every time that i say yes to something i’m saying no to something else so that’s good yeah you got to take what you’re committing to really seriously because i have been the person who burns the candle at both ends and i’ve reaped the uh bad things that come with that uh number four is in stillness we become and this comes from well that saying comes from one of our previous guests uh um zarin beatty but what i mean with this is leaving space in between my commitments to care for myself so making

(21:02) the time to do things i love like take a bath or read or journal or go on a hike sit in the sunshine and that’s where i make the space in my life to you know sit in silence which doesn’t have to be over meditation like i said it can be any of the things i just said you know take a bath with an amazing book sit in the grass at the park in the sunshine and have a snack or go on a hike in nature and those places if i make space for them i have the grandest epiphanies or at least i get clearer on what i want um which is

(21:34) what this is all about and then number five the end the last step is just to write it down dude we talk about this so much um all you gotta do is like once you’ve got a clear thought in your head about what you want your life to look like write it down it has been so extraordinarily powerful it’s been super powerful in both of our lives yeah i mean it’s just one way of physically putting what you want into this time and space like the right now so i just said on instagram today manifestation is intention

(22:05) mm-hmm isn’t it being intentional okay manifestation is being intentional yeah that’s a dash of magic maybe i like that yeah i think that that’s that’s definitely a part of it is figuring out your process so for me that’s the that’s the five steps that um i use it’s really good okay she also wanted to know where do you see yourself in five years um this is a great question cassie uh so i i’m not gonna just kind of wing this one i have written this out in my goals journal like my five year plan so

(22:47) i’m just going to read it from there so uh this is something i hope everybody does by the way um this is like something i think you should probably do every year right and if you have a partner you should do one with your partner and and i’m shooting all over everybody right now but it’s really just one of those things that take the i don’t know maybe it takes you up to an hour maybe it takes you way less time depending you know on how much you got to think about this whatever foundation you’ve already laid

(23:17) for it but it is so worth it because again it’s just about writing down what you want i mean and then even if you go to do it and it’s not super clear you figured out okay it’s not super clear i’m gonna be more intentional about figuring out how to clear this up for myself so okay my five year goals in five years from now we will have a massive podcast following here on the magic hour yeah and have expanded the brand to be a place people can come for direct counseling of sorts and where we sell incredible merchandise that brings

(23:50) value to our consumers lives the podcast will be well beyond supporting itself and will be extremely lucrative beyond what we could have imagined i see myself continuing to be a bridge for those willing to venture into the gray area we live in on this show and five years from now i’ll be more articulate more intuitive softer and more present i’ll be organized and confident in my abilities as an entrepreneur manager and a technician i will be comfortable and confident speaking in front of large audiences and

(24:22) i may even be well on my way to or have achieved a doctorate or phd that’s a lofty goal mercedes um i will have made a decision on whether or not i’m going to have kids and i’ll feel very secure in that decision um i’ll still be happily married to my current husband and i’ll be excitedly supporting his own business ventures we’ll have a passionate and romantic partnership we will have a beautiful family compound that provides outstanding views gorgeous weather and endless possibilities i’ll be painting

(24:57) and dancing regularly and hosting and entertaining friends and family often by the way all these things i don’t do that’s why i’m writing them down jade and i will both have legit home studios for the podcast and we’ll be traveling the country recording with special guests and hosting life events for our magic mom yes and according to jade in five years i’ll be doing ayahuasca so we’ll see if any of all of that comes to fruition i mean that wasn’t like a vision i had it was just like oh i have a feeling

(25:29) that maybe when you’re 40. i don’t know why i said 40. um all right i love that answer and i stand in agreement with all of that um rock your joshua is it ever difficult for you or your spouse to balance attention men give you online and at shows with your relationship um i was going to ask you before we go to that sorry john again but are you going to ask her a woke question railed or whatever yeah that’s next after this one oh [ __ ] you changed it okay i just wanted to make sure he’s got him because he’s such a such a fan

(26:08) okay sorry ask that again so we don’t have it all chopped up i okay so after i said stand in agreement at rocky joshua asked is it ever difficult for you or your spouse to balance attention men give you online and at shows with your relationship sorry [ __ ] this up just give me a second what happened here you want me to ask the other guys question now no because i want to make sure i find this piece because uh

(27:11) i had definitely had it down but i don’t know why i don’t have it now okay that’s him sorry john but at least there’s no other edits in this episode likely besides removing the pauses and all that that’s so hard that’s got too much going on over here there it is weird okay

(28:18) do you want to ask it again or you want him to just cut me in i’ll just cut you in okay so john if you can pick up after jade’s question about um my spouse and bouncing the attention men give me online or whatever the [ __ ] it is and that was joshua right yeah he’ll just have to remove the pause that’s all okay oh okay good question joshua so we actually want to have chris on the show which i think will be entertaining if we can ever get him to uh to say yes to it he’s i think he’s a little scared

(28:54) um i think the biggest thing that creates trust between chris and i which is really to answer your question joshua is about um figuring out how to make my husband comfortable with the fact that i’m i work a job that men are going to give me a bunch of attention to online or at shows right so so trust okay so why do we have a trusting relationship i think first off that men don’t often get the wrong idea about me i think we talked about this maybe in the jimmy episode i’m pretty confident in saying that

(29:34) i don’t put off that vibe you know whatever that is but probably because i’m always busy being the man like we talked about earlier or something and i i’m sure my husband witnesses that that’s how i interact with them and i you know i have a lot of close male friends yeah you’re not a flirt at all i wouldn’t consider myself a floor i don’t you wouldn’t even be confused as a flirt yeah yeah but i have so many male friends i work in a male-dominated industry with obviously the fight game

(30:08) and i’ve worked with the zillion photographers because of working and modeling so i i have many intimate um mentally intimate relationships with men uh i have some of my best conversations that are with men and i’ve even had someone talking to me going like you know if my wife was having a conversation like this with another person i’d feel almost worse about it than if they physically cheated on me because it feels so uh vulnerable i think for a man to get to that place and that’s kind of my comfort zone yeah so but i think then

(30:42) they work through that and they realize that it’s you know i don’t know i think as people we relate sometimes um being open and telling your story as a uh so intimate of a thing that you should only do that like being close and naked with you yeah and i think that’s why i say that all of us are soul mates in waiting because i’m willing to get that intimate with most people you know very quickly and easily i’m like that right away yeah totally like that right yeah but i think a lot of people are not like that maybe that’s

(31:15) what’s going on there so um also my husband’s been very involved with my career um he’s been you know on the back end of my social media for some time uh or was for some time and has seen kind of all that comes through he’s kind of seen the worst the worst of the dms and the dick pics and then whatever’s that come through um and knows that my interaction with all that is zero so it doesn’t really uh he doesn’t feel any kind of jealousy there uh and i think that the real trust between us comes from

(31:51) regular discussions yeah so let me ask it in this way because the the way that i saw the question is so for me if i’m dating a guy who really doesn’t he doesn’t compliment me he doesn’t do sweet things for me but yet online i’m getting all these compliments and men who literally we get dm saying like i want to take you to egypt you know like these silly things it can sometimes be like oh god all these strangers tell me sweet things all the time and the person that i just want to hear it from doesn’t tell

(32:22) me any of it so is that sometimes hard to balance maybe is is another way to think of the question yes um that’s a great addition i think that that for sure comes up like you want your significant other to be your biggest fan you know you want to feel like they are constantly adoring you and that has got to be freaking exhausting for anyone to try to keep up with because they’re trying to keep up with what the people on social media that maybe once a week or once a day even come and say something nice to you

(32:58) because they’re trying to maybe get in your pants or maybe they’re just being nice but you know that’s that’s completely removed from who they actually are it’s completely removed from a relationship where you know being in a relationship you’re you’re not going to have the energy to do that all day long unfortunately and i try to put myself in their shoes too so like i know when i date guys that don’t they don’t have a massive following and they’re not well known or anything but they are

(33:28) getting comments from women just because they’re attractive comments from women that are like uh just the heart emojis or like the heart eyes emojis even then i’m kind of like is this girl like i wonder if she’s dming him i wonder like because you can look at their page and just tell that they’re a cats you know so like i can see how you it can get in someone’s head just like seeing so many comments and thinking like are these are these people after the person that i interested in you know and

(33:58) then i can also think about the people that i’ve dated that are um like i remember dating one guy who played in a band and he played at disney world and i remember when he got off stage people were like ripping at his shirt and like screaming his name but it didn’t that didn’t affect me because i just felt lucky to be the one that got to go home with him you know so i can see how like when it’s online and it’s mysterious that can kind of when it’s like a mystery and it can make you make a story in your head you know

(34:29) but then when it’s like do you get what i’m saying but then when it’s like at the shows like the bellator shows it’s like you know that these are just people who are coming to the show and leaving and you’re going home with that person yeah i think that i think that’s what i hope that he feels that’s why i think that this would be interesting to ask him you know when we have him on the show but um i hope to put that kind of um idea in his head that he is secure in this relationship with me because i have

(34:58) only eyes for him you know and i think even only eyes for him is ridiculous i think we’re realists you know like i think we are um understanding that we’re human beings we know we’re hormonal you know individuals and we have maybe uh we see attractive people we know they’re attractive we’re not blind but at the same time we have a lot together that makes uh our lives enjoyable overall that you know we wouldn’t want to sacrifice for a sexual experience or something like that i don’t know i just think that uh

(35:33) he doesn’t he has never expressed like jealousy you know yeah um which is freaking hard i mean but i always hear that it takes a very confident man to be with someone you know that that has a big social media following or is in the public eye or or takes sexy photos so well when i ask him that question he just says i mean you you make it easy to trust you like it’s not everything is completely open i mean he couldn’t look at any of my social media where people would normally he would be there or your

(36:06) favorite thing that’s what it comes down to is making it easy to trust yeah like easy to trust it’s not it’s not like a struggle yeah i like that okay at i always struggle with this name but i love him he leaves the best comments on all of our stuff roku record r-a-o-k-e-d roped yes exactly who you’re talking about i have no idea i love how to pronounce it but yeah got the dreads if you could change one impactful thing about modeling what would it be and why okay you guys already know i love this

(36:43) question because right now as you know a major mission of mine is to spread this message that i’m calling hashtag keep it realish which is about letting the world know if and how a photo was photoshopped because i know that not only as a model spending the last 15 years in this industry but also just as a woman growing up in the rise of social media the amount of content that i’ve used to compare myself it to is so staggering and constant i mean never stop so the hopes with hashtag keep it realish is to get everyone you know models

(37:21) influencers anyone else posting on social media to take responsibility for the content they’re putting out there um people around the world especially women are doing everything from cutting up their bodies on the plastic surgeon’s table to committing suicide over the fact that they feel like they can’t measure up to these photoshopped photos with you know the waist pinched in and the breast and large and the butt’s enlarged and the skin that looks like a china doll because it’s been so smoothed out and

(37:51) face tuned and this is happening to the point where you know women are coming out of the plastic surgeon’s office looking like aliens yeah lip lip injections to the hill that every part of the body is stuck in the implants and by the way guys i’m not trying to shame the people who’ve decided to do it but it’s like they feel like they they feel the pressure to look face tuned and filtered all the time because that’s what we’re seeing all the time yes i mean i feel that pressure i i myself um have breast implants i’ve done

(38:21) the fillers in the botox i asked myself why i do all this why i sit in pain in a doctor’s office and the answer is because it feels like we women have to in order to keep up and that’s our culture you know and it’s just not healthy it’s the whole culture it’s fitting into this um yeah it’s and it’s it’s not just the women that are feeding into it by the way it’s all of us so guys we need your help too and i think to answer your original question jade or rogue if if i could change one

(38:51) impactful thing about modeling it would be that the industry would move toward a standard of keeping things realish like i’m calling it and at least noting how things were edited and i realized that because you know we’re all competitive beings we are always going to try to to one-up each other but if we could find a way to be to just make being healthy in mind body and spirit paramount in the modeling industry that would be an industry i’d be proud to be a part of yeah that’s what i’d change i agree

(39:23) i think he’ll like that answer yeah thanks for the question pick your poison from kyland young we love you kyle and kylan which he always has the best pick your poisons would you rather know the day that you were going to die or the day that your significant other is going to die but not be able to tell them kindly and i don’t like this one um i would definitely want to know the day i’m going to die and i keep it to myself and here’s why because i i wouldn’t want to know the day my spouse is going to die because it would

(39:58) cause me to like treat them worse well i feel like i would treat them differently and then i wouldn’t be the you know of good service to them while they’re here and still alive like if i was just huddling them instead of being a mirror and i choose that answer for that same reason yeah it’s so true a real relationship with somebody yeah and also knowing when you’re gonna die is gonna only affect you better because you’re gonna live your life fuller and do the best that you can but knowing

(40:26) when they’re gonna die you can’t control them yeah i wonder how man that would mess with your mind though because if you knew you were gonna die and you keep it to yourself do you like secretly always have a pity party or does it make you just live like every moment to the full fullest or like yeah tuesday’s with mori style so there’s a few short questions there i’d like to ask everyone who comes on the show you do you may have heard them before first if you could hug your younger self right now what would you say

(41:00) firstly i’d give her at least an eight second hug belly to belly uh to release some oxytocin and i would say okay i’m gonna be i’m gonna be unfair with our staple questions because i want to i have so many and i have so many things i want to say to myself in this moment so you’re going to have to just kind of bear with me first of all i probably tell her to soften that’s good um i tell her you’re safe as long as you are in truth which i think would be like probably confusing for her to hear at that time

(41:41) but maybe it would open up something that’s so good to start seeking i think um i tell her to breathe because i was not breathing at all properly for so long i like how you always take a breath when we talk about breathing on the show and so i would tell her you know just breathe baby girl because i was not breathing i’d probably show her how to breathe properly because that’s changed my life um and i tell her that the shame she feels is doesn’t belong to her um which i really needed to hear so badly

(42:21) probably any time any time up until this last year which i could still use that so if my older self wants to come tell me now i’m good with that tell her to start journaling because of course you already know all the reasons for that and i tell her it’s okay to poop and maybe to read more and refine a healthy diet for herself you know all in relation [Music] no it’s not no it’s not i’m a cat i gotta hide it i’m not i’m a woman apparently that’s not allowed if you could have the whole world read

(43:01) one book which would it be um this is the first one that is like one-handed on this is the female brain by dr luanne brisendine uh i may have said it before on the show but this book i knew you were gonna say that yeah where kind of my journey into what hormones mean in our bodies and brains came from so or started for me and i think this is goes for men and women and young women and young men all of you if you read this book it will change you because understanding how hormones work and by the way she describes not only how hormones work in

(43:45) females but also in males in this book um she also has a book called the male brain but i actually recommend the female brain above it because i think it’s more exploratory um even for both sexes and women are just harder to figure out yeah and men if you want to be the guy who’s literally like psychic when it comes to how to be in a relationship with women and that can be your mom your sister your friends or your girlfriend or wife whatever it is this book will help you tap into being the type of guy that every chick

(44:15) wants in their life i also think that if we could all really read this book and and understand how hormones work in our bodies it would end war like it would cause world peace i know that sounds lofty but if you get with this book and you see me in person one day we will have that conversation and i bet you’ll be on board with me because you’ve read it and you understand um okay i’m not gonna i’m not gonna say just one i know i know i know you ask for one book but i’m also gonna say the alchemist because

(44:44) i mean the alchemist is that book you can read every single year and be like reinvigorated on your path and your journey towards whatever you um i’m surprised you said that i thought that you weren’t that into it a while back yeah the first time i read it i was like it was cute story and then i read it when i was in my actual calling you know like finding what i actually wanted to do with my life and i was like this is it this is like it completely spoke to me yeah uh a light is the new black rebecca campbell’s book we love and you can read

(45:17) the reason why we started this show totally you can read each page of that book on the toilet every day instead of being on your phone and each page will just literally light you up it’ll make you feel like okay i’m gonna go out there and find my bliss and serve my purpose and it’s gonna be amazing and it’ll give you all the tools to start figuring out what that is if you if you need so i love that and then the power of now by eckhart tolle just because that was the book that kicked off my spiritual journey i

(45:47) love a new earth but i know you like the power now okay if you’re called to any of those they’re all good i’m proud that i’m i feel good that i’ve read all of them i know if you could whisper one phrase to everyone on the planet what would it be okay you could probably guess but i also have several for this you’re just gonna have to bear with me because this is my show today okay i would whisper you already are um because i think that we are all just this to give like a visual idea i think we’re

(46:26) just like a box of puzzle pieces and we have all the pieces in our box and we just haven’t sorted it out so that we can see it clearly yet and so just knowing that all the pieces are there they’re all inside you you already are this whole picture and it’s just a matter of like finding the tools and the ways and the routes that lead you to putting the pieces in order so that you can feel completely actualized yeah and then i would also say seek the pain for positive gain you guys know that on this show

(47:02) we love to go into the uncomfortable places to find the light on the other side or find where we can gain some amazing beauty in our lives from the painful places so that’s what that’s all about and then something that has really been surfacing for me lately is this idea that is to to essentially mourn the death of who you were yesterday every day so i think we’re just trapped all of us in these patterns and background scripts that are almost fully um [Music] puppeteering who we are you know through our subconscious and so when we begin to

(47:51) evolve or something happens that changes us could be as simple as reading a new book or finding a new diet that fits us better getting into a new relationship or it might be nothing new at all it might just be realizing that we can be you know happy in this moment instead of living in the depression we’ve been in for years well when this happens we have some pain tied to letting go of the old us you know the us of today literally and we need to mourn that for a moment like sit with it okay i see who i am and and i don’t want this isn’t serving me

(48:26) anymore or you know i’m ready to be more amazing and even if it’s just you know momentarily that you sit there and mourn that for a moment just consciously release that old version of ourselves so that we can step into the new version tomorrow’s version so more in the death of who you were yesterday every day hmm that’s really good i’ve never i’ve never i don’t feel like i’ve ever heard anyone say that that’s new i just made it up now that’s good it’s also interesting that you told

(48:59) yourself it’s okay to poop because it’s so funny how different women are so different about that like like natasha leaves poop in the toilet for kyle like as a surprise as a way of flirting with him and then i have another friend who i’m not gonna mention her name who like the toilet wouldn’t flush and she freaked out to where she snuck into the kitchen got a cup put her poop in the cup and then snuck to the dumpster and put it in the dumpster because she was so afraid of her boyfriend singing yeah poop i’m the

(49:30) yeah it’s just so crazy it’s like so opposite ends of the spectrum you know yeah i mean a woman can be yeah i don’t know how much of that story i talked about but i am the second person for sure pactivist all the way poop and period activists over here guys we are no longer being cats about our poop we are no longer burying it in the sand you’re so silly but uh well um it is time for our magic tricks and i was hoping that for today’s magic trick you can do the one that you feel has been the most has i guess given you

(50:11) the most magic in your life the most useful tool okay i know you’ve already given a lot today yeah i mean you guys a lot of tools that’s my magician mind though right like always being overly analytical like all right here’s how we’re going to fix this thing um okay so for my magic trick it’s simple for me the most healing tool i’ve found is breathing which is pretty self-explanatory i think one of our first episodes i did some breathing techniques and so the other thing has been journaling

(50:45) and for me i never kept a diary as a kid and actually my mom would say um you know don’t write things down you don’t know you don’t want someone to read them um i think it’s because she had that circumstance happen to her when she was a kid like one of her brothers or somebody stole her diary and read it and it you know betrayed her trust and she was like i’m never writing anything down so as a kid i always got told not to write things down unless i wanted someone to read it which so i was afraid

(51:13) of putting anything on paper but later in life i discovered journaling and that [ __ ] changed my life overnight yeah there has been no greater tool i found for conquering anything that lives inside of me uh from anxiety depression traumas in my childhood um bad breakups literally everything and and when i was in therapy that was one of the things obviously i used to write down whatever was going on in my head um when i was having crazy anxiety depression that i couldn’t see outside of i didn’t know how to get outside of

(51:48) it i was in it i mean that’s how how it feels when you’re you’re having anxiety you’re just like stuck and so i would just write down whatever was thoughts were going through my head and little by little it it [ __ ] helped i don’t know i don’t know how to explain it any better than that but i also wanted to mention that the top three reasons you might want to journal if you have not picked up a pen and paper to do that i’m going to invite you to explore it obviously that’s what a magic trick is

(52:17) all about number one reason is it reduces stress you know writing about stressful experiences can help you manage them in a healthy way it improves immune function this is so cool because disease aka dis-ease usually starts in the mind and that’s that was a huge thing for me to really believe finally and understand how that works so um there’s science behind this those who journal boast improved immune system functioning it actually strengthens immune cells that’s so freaking cool uh i know it seems completely unrelated

(52:53) to the physical but it is definitely not and it strengthens emotional regulation um by evoking mindfulness it helps writers may remain present while while keeping perspective uh it prevents opportunity for emotional catharsis and helps the brain regulate emotions and it provides a greater sense of self-confidence and self-identity so like i said guys there’s no right way to journal just start writing down whatever is going on in your head and it will start refining itself as your writing into whatever needs to be looked at that

(53:24) day so just start like just begin that’s it yeah journaling that’s a good one um we’ve probably drilled that into your head so many times the last year but so my magic trick is the one that i would say was my first it’s not the like the biggest magic trick that you’ve placed in my life but it’s the first one um it’s one of the first things i remember like really absorbing from you and learning from you um we i there was something like when we were working at bellator there was something

(54:02) that i wanted like from one of our go-to’s there was like something that like i um was like man it would be nice if i could get this and you were like a-s-k-g-e-t like they had asked me to do something and i think i was gonna get paid for it or something and i was like oh it’d be nice you know or something like that you’re like ask get you can’t get what you don’t ask for and when you said that i was only like i don’t know 25 or 26.

(54:30) when you said that i was like i have never thought of that before you can’t get what you don’t ask for like it sounds so simple yeah but it was like i had never felt like i could just ask for stuff i never even now when i ask for favors i i’m like so uh is it okay i’m so sorry to ask uh would you rather run me over with the car you know like it’s like so hard for me to ask for things from people so um it was so revelational for some reason um and it’s when you really really think about that though like it can change your

(55:07) relationships it can change your career like just asking for what you want and yeah especially in our relationships yeah because sometimes we just we expect them to know or we just think if they would if they want to they’ll do it right if we deserve it we’ll get it right you know um and then if you still don’t feel comfortable asking then it’s like it’s really worth asking yourself like why why do why can i not ask do i not feel worthy do i is there shame like am i carrying shame around this like because if you’re not

(55:43) willing to at least ask then there’s a there’s a deep-rooted issue there you know um but yeah i’ve applied that and it’s made a huge difference and it’s it’s been um you know in my past partnership having two toddlers back to back having two babies back to back that was like something that was really really hard for me was i didn’t ever ask for help and then i resented him for not helping so and i’m not i don’t who knows what would have happened you know had i constantly asked for help but um

(56:16) [Music] it’s just so important that when we need help that we ask and that if we want something that we ask because what the odds are 50 50 either you’re gonna get it or you’re not exactly so um but do you want to add anything to that sincere i feel like you’re such a guru on this topic i just feel like i’m glad you found so much value in it first of all and i hope so anyone listening can understand what we’re talking about here and feel feel the value from it too or or reap the benefits um for me it was just it’s

(56:47) something my mom would always say to me i would be complaining or whining about something i don’t have or didn’t get or whatever it was uh and this goes into like the you know into my 20s whatever and she would say ask g t mercedes you can’t get what you don’t ask for and you know i love your mom’s things yeah put the money in your pocket yeah and then you ask what that’s for he has some good ones uh we are not left to our fates without the ability to to affect the outcome that’s my mom

(57:20) um so yeah a-s-k-g-e-t though is is like so simple yet so effective because we put all these walls in front of ourselves for what we want um and like you’re saying i think it is a worthiness issue we feel like we’re a burden if we ask for something but that’s not the reality because what we’re asking for is something we know can be potentially given to us because it’s there or it might not be a possibility and we’re gonna hear no but we gotta be okay with hearing no too so again you know just ask you you might be

(57:55) really surprised with what you get you usually are i like it um [Music] all right magic moppers thank you so much for tuning in and taking this journey with us if this episode held some magic for you please share it with your friends and family this would mean so much to us and don’t forget to join us on our instagram page at the magic hour and let us know what your favorite episodes have been so far we appreciate all your feedback and we want to know what’s lighting you up yeah and guys um you know that we are on

(58:33) all of our shows are on the library so if you guys want to check out any of our previous episodes especially the ones we mentioned in this episode feel free to go check those out now and we will meet you there until then be a lie big thank you to at rayton royal for our intro jam and to john aaron garza from real in motion productions for producing the show stay magical friends all right so i um accidentally i didn’t hit record on the video like i thought i did so i’m just going to re-ask that first question on the video

(59:09) which is anonymous why are some women so mean about penis size and is it really a big enough reason to end their relationship over do it one more time just say anonymous asks anonymous asks why are some women so mean about penis size and is it really a big enough reason to end a relationship over okay okay you notice how hard it is for me to say the word ass yeah like my kid won’t come out it sounds like i’m saying i need to ask you ask you a question like acer and tara using his butt may i ask you a few questions dang it

(59:55) i’m trying so one of the main reasons too why i wanted us all to go to dinner too is because kailyn has been wanting to talk to us to you and i and pick our brain about that yeah about that